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Giving gifts is considered sexy already, so why not give gifts that are sexy? They can be the dirty little secret coming from the open-minded girl, or they can be the quaintest of surprises from the “shy” type.

To start, what qualifies as sexy gifts? It has to be something that evokes a smile, but not necessarily laugh-your-ass-off funny as well as sly and suggestive. Finally, it also has to make YOU happy, not just your guy. (For those who weren’t following, this is a girl’s gift idea list! But some might work for your girlfriend too!)

Sexilicious Pens – The name says it! Come on! Mixing “sexy” and “delicious” in one word? What the name doesn’t say though, is that the “ink” is made of smexy chocolate, with bare skin acting as paper. It can both be the ingredient of some sexy play, or garnish for the main dish! Hot chocolate — a sexy gift? You betcha!

Indiana Jones Soft Whip – With the latest Indy movie, comes more new merch! While not exactly the recommended use for this product, the box does scream, “Live the Adventure!” This is a meter-long soft whip. Plus, it makes the crackling sound a real whip makes, which makes it ideal for sexy s & m experimentation stages.

D*ck In A Box – The now-classic skit can always be seen just behind some of the major holidays. It’s a certified Timberlake hit! Labeled an official SNL product, the D*ck In A Box bring the fun in a hole-in-the-bottom-of-the-popcorn-carton humor — which makes it a pretty sexy gift. The absolute best part about this product is the packaging (see what I did there?) — it has drawn illustrations of the complete instructions for use, plus, the sub line reads, “We supply the box. You supply the rest.”

Skeeter Beeter Pro Hammock – If you’re the adventurous type and dislike the hammock burns after an afternoon “nap,” then this hammock is for you! Designed to keep mosquitoes and other insects out, it also obfuscates the dwellers within from public viewing. Requirements? Three deep-rooted trees, ice-cold drinks and a free afternoon.

Grand Get-Away – Can you spell hottest gift ever? “Two-piece-bikini-sun-swanky-resort-you-and-him.” If sexy material gifts aren’t your thing, then this might just hit the spot — what’s a more special present than an exotic experience in a foreign land? You could plan your trip online, behind his back, or enter this neat little contest I found, which might make the sexy gift better: FREE.

Now, we all have our relationship mishaps. I really don’t believe that there are some of us who have been very faithful to their partners all the way, if ever there are still are, well good for them. I admit I have cheated on my lover in some occasions. I have my reasons eventually, which I really devise well to be believable. It sad but we have to accept it that cheating has no excuses, whatever justification there is to be redeemed from the situation.

But then again, let’s just try to make those excuses in case forgiveness and forgetting could be achieved one way or another. If you ask me, these are the ways that work best when being unfaithful:

1. “It’s not what you think.” This is the most classic excuse, although making up an excuse impromptu might be a little hard. So while you are doing a little naughty thing, run your mind like hell and come up with a good excuse. It may somehow ruin the moment, but hey you should decide with whom you want to continue a relationship.
2. “I’m a victim here.” You have to look the other way and put the blame on the person you’re getting jiggy with it. Try to make sense that you are just lured into the situation. Yes, it is hard to lie but consider it as taking a stand for yourself, although you might really lose big time.
3. “We are not working out anymore.” Play this card if you always wanted to break up all the while. This is the easiest but rude way to dis on somebody. But if you are that desperate and insensitive. What the hell, go for it!

I do not advice cheating because it does not only ruin the relationship, but there is a huge effect on the self. A lot of people have been destroyed because someone has been cheating on them, worse yet, they have been cheating. All in all, it is called guilt that might result in depression, aggression and even suicide. It will take a long time to heal unless you have already been in the situation many times. You don’t really mind doing it over and over again.

I am not a feminist and an advocate the rights of women against abuse. It’s not that I do not support the cause, but I also recognize that men are also experiencing the same traumatic situations. Although the ratio may only be 60% (women) to 40% (men) in terms of domestic abuse victims, it does not rule out the fact that there are men that are equally vulnerable just like women.

Because it is more unlikely for men to be victims of violence and domestic abuse, the cases are not really reported. Plus the fact that men can be embarrassed to tell about their situation. Besides, some women even act like they are the victim instead of being the abuser. Who would the authorities rather believe?

Men domestic abuse is almost the same as women’s abuse. It includes hitting, throwing objects, slapping, pushing, forcing, using a weapon, striking the other person with an object, and even slamming a door. It could also be emotional and mental abuse. But the only difference is, men and women differ when they are hurt mentally or emotionally. Examples of emotional abuse of men consist of calling them a coward, impotent or failure. Some men are deeply wounded when they are emotionally abused than being physically abused.

Why men become victims:

Alcohol Abuse. It is a fact that women are abused because of their alcoholic partners or husbands. It also applies with men. When some women get intoxicated they become frustrated and eventually angry. By then, she will resort to any kind of abuse, especially verbal abuse. Men, usually calm down their partners, but some of them receive an unfavorable nagging, worse yet, insults.

Psychological Issues. There are certain relationships that dwindle with mental illness. Some women become violent towards their men because of their personality disorder. Borderline personality disorder is an example, such a disorder is mostly apparent in women. At least 50% of domestic abuse and violence against men have been related with Borderline Personality disorder. In this case, men are just trying to be man enough to handle the situation, mostly become understanding towards their partners even at their own expense.

Expectations. Women who are abusive and violent towards men have stronger personality. Most of them are more capable than men, especially in terms of financial capacity. In turn, these women demand of their men to be more than their abilities even if the idea is very unrealistic. Some other women have their own insecurities and emotional problems and they project that on the partners, expecting them to have more patience and understanding. Worse yet, they blame their negative emotional state on their male partners. And then, when they notice that men cannot make them feel better, such women become so frustrated and presume that men are doing it on purpose.

Since men domestic abuse and violence are not that prevalent than women abuse, there are no programs or advocacy groups for them. In spite of this fact, men should learn to own up their situation and tell their side of the story.

It hurts! The very idea that your lover might be playing on you strikes terror in your heart but the thought keeps eroding. Is he unfaithful? Is he a player? Is he looking for someone else?

There are many ways to tell and you don’t need to hire a private investigator or someone to look after him. In fact, guts, emotions and vibes will do! =) ,but tactics and techniques to know if your lover is a player are the best.

The techniques and tactics used to deceive mates vary. The signs may be hidden or right in front of you. Only you can pick up many of them, because you know your mate better than anybody. If you are observant, what, when, where, why and how your mate does things can tell you when something isn’t right. The signs of playing can be broken down into three categories: hidden signs, emotional signs, and physical evidence. Here are some examples of each:

Hidden Signs: Your lover is always late, has vehicle troubles, and unexplained absences. Your mate tells fishy-sounding stories about working odd hours. Your mate won’t answer the cell phone or pager when you’re around, uses a public telephone frequently, or receives a lot of phone calls that are wrong numbers. Your mate comes home with grass stains on his or her clothing.

Emotional Signs: Your mate is more attentive to your needs than usual and even buys you lots of gifts. Your mate’s taste in music suddenly changes. Your mate picks fights with you and criticizes you. Your mate is easily offended at comments you make. Your mate stops saying “I love you” and stops being affectionate.

Physical Evidence: Your mate’s car may hold real evidence. The passenger seat is in a different position. It has unfamiliar footprints inside. You find strange jewelry or clothing or gift-wrapping paper inside. Also, your mate may make unexplained ATM withdrawals, won’t let you see the credit card bill, or comes home smelling better than when he or she left the house.

Playing is more common than you might think. Men tend to cheat or play for physical reasons; women plays for emotional ones. Although people of all ages cheat, the most common time in life to stray is between the ages of 23 and 45. According to The Associated Press, 22 percent of men have had an affair at least once in their married lives, while 14 percent of married women have done so. And they got away with it for the most part. Fully 70 percent of married women and 54 percent of married men had no idea their spouse cheated on them.

Want to getaway from it all? Going anywhere away from the stress, the hassle and the buzz? How about a week or two to the love-filled ambiance of Paris? Or a tanning session in Miami? Perhaps a cruise to an exotic island would do? Whatever you do, wherever you go, it’s best if you are with your special someone!

Just imagine surrendering to your partner’s warm embrace while staring at the sun slowly going down the horizon. Feeling your sweetheart’s masculine palm on yours while finding your way out of a vast and busy summer festival. Letting you know that you are secured when you are with him. Moments like these simply say that, you can never go wrong on a journey with your honey! Resulting to a happier and hotter relationship!

There are lots of things you can do if you are traveling to a new place. But there are far more activities you can share with your loved one making your expedition even worthy and unforgettable!

You know you want it but you actually don’t know how to get it.

This holds true when it comes to asking the person to spend the rest of their life with you. The emotional hormones are up and it feels like you’re going to explode any moment. Truly nerve-wracking and all you want to do is to get it done and over with but you have to make it right.

Even in the most stable and steady of all relationships, the uncertainty of saying yes is still the worst fear for men. Let me just say that we all can propose but the natural cycle of things seem to dictate that it should be the guy who will kneel and ask one of the most nerve-wracking questions of all time.

But then again, to be fair, the following things-to-do are applicable for both men and women.

1. Think 40,000 THOUSAND times.
Well, you don’t have to count but the point is think about it really hard. Proposing marriage isn’t just like asking them out for a date. If you have any second thoughts, then ask yourself if you really want it. It would be a total waste of time if after all the hardship and absurd stress level put if at the long run the whole thing will be called off. See the emphasis and the seemingly grammatical error? The stress here is think hard, think really, really hard.

2. Know the size of your partner’s finger.
Now, we’re just talking about the engagement ring here. Think about the wedding ring after your partner says yes. It is totally embarrassing for the both of you if the ring will not fit your partner’s finger. Truly, it will destroy THE moment. Either you buy a ring or if it will be passed to you as an heirloom, make sure it fits your partner’s finger.

3. Meet the parents.
Show your partner’s folks some R-E-S-P-E-C-T and let them know that you want to marry their son or daughter. If you have known them for a while then the transition is easier but if it’s the first time that you’ll be meeting them, then you have to woo them and actually ask their approval first. Bottom line, give them the 411.

4. Book the honeymoon spot.
This may seem pretty too early and assuming but the honeymoon is where all the good stuff will happen, right? And a honeymoon in a luxury destination will be more appealing to your partner for it will make them feel that you’ve really put a LOT on the proposal. And a luxury destination does spell a lot.

5. Decide where, when and how.
This is where you will exhaust all your creative and romantic juices. Orchestrating a proposal requires research and pulling a few strings to make the moment perfect. Ask your friends, read, go online and ultimately, go for your guts, You know your partner therefore you know what will make them yes. These three quintessential questions are the hardest and will test your capabilities.

Now that the worst part is over, you have the ring, the folks appear thrilled, you’ve book the luxurious honeymoon spot and you know what to do, here are the things you have to 48 hours before showtime.

6. Go for a DIY ambush makeover

This might seem vain but it will never hurt if you look good when you bring in the fireworks, so to speak. Get a massage, get a haircut, buy new clothes, have your teeth cleaned by your dentist, clean your nails, do the works.

7. Role play the scene.
Practice proposing with a close friend. May sound over the top, but, you don’t have to memorize the lines. You have a plan, and role-playing is a way to go over it. To make it more realistic, put on costumes or some props just to get the vibe. It can be fun too. It’ll take the stress off and lighten up your senses.

There’s a reason why asking your partner’s hand in marriage is a big question. It is a commitment to love and understand each other in spite of your weaknesses. There will come a time when you’re married that you’ll not be able to stand each other so decide now if you want that day to come.